If You Are a Single Parent–You Should Read This
I love traveling. It’s fun. It’s exciting. It’s adventurous. It’s whatever.
I can travel alone, with my family, with my boyfriend, and with my friends. And now, I can travel with my nephew…alone.
Last weekend, my 5-year-old nephew and I visited my older brother in Florida. We did so many awesome things like ride horses, hit the park in West Palm Beach, relax, and most importantly, eat awesome food.
Let me tell you something: I will never be nervous to take care of my nephew alone. He is the most caring, loving, well-tamed (if that’s what you want to call it) little boy in the world. Let me tell you something else: I was a little worried about how the whole airport situation would go.
I am looking after a 5-year-old for pete’s sake!!!
First of all, he’s 5. Yes, he’s amazing and we get along like peanut butter and jelly. But then again, you never know what is going to happen when it’s just you and a 5-year-old…regardless.
In case you were wondering how the airport experience was…it went great. My nephew spent his time napping, playing with his tablet, asking 789 questions (I am proud of myself for being able to answer all of them), listening to directions very well, and baring with me even when I needed to figure out how to get around the airport hand-in-hand with him, while holding three bags, carrying food and making sure we don’t lose our tickets.
Whenever a child would be screaming his head off while his mother tried calming him down, I thought “Holy shit, is she doing that alone?” I mean, my goodness…SHE IS doing it alone alongside millions of other moms and dads.
Was this hard for me? No, not at all. Remember, I did this for 4 days. You on the other hand–do it every single day. I am also not a professional parent. I am fortunate enough to have two parents who are loving, caring, and supportive. But you, you are special and you automatically get a superhero card.
You are raising your child alone, with no one else around you to help grab your child a snack when they are hungry, or help with homework, or help you pick up toys after a long day, or even assist you with making sure your child eats, sleeps, breathes, and lives the life you have always dreamed of. You can do it ALL. I don’t know how…but you do!
Let me continue:
You are strong:
Not only are you single mom, or single dad, but you are mom and dad! You don’t even have to be single to play both roles. But guess what, that’s double the fun, don’t you think?
You are the reason your child makes it through the day:
It’s hard taking care of yourself let alone a child who is legit a wildcard. You are the person who leads your child in the right direction. Every step of every day is revolved around making your child a better human and YOU are the reason they are that loving, caring, cuddly little human that is everything your world revolves around and much more.
You are more than enough:
I am almost positive that at the end of the day, when you finally have time to breathe, you are wondering what you can do more of. If you get your child up in the morning, make sure they are fed, taken care of, and most importantly, loved…you are doing everything right. Stop thinking you are not worth it and be proud of yourself. Remember, just being there is enough. It’s simple. Being there and answering your child’s 8509 questions, making sure their belly is full, hugging, kissing, telling them “I love you”, and helping them whenever they need something, is enough.
I am not here to teach you how to raise a child by yourself. I can barely get myself through the day without wanting to pull my hair out. But I am here to tell you to breathe. Life is hard, we all know that. Every day is different and if you are having a bad day today, tomorrow is a brand new one. I do have one little piece of advice for you. If you are parent, whether you are single or not, take some time for yourself. I don’t care. Lock yourself up in the bathroom and take a bubble bath, go for a walk, or go out with some friends–when you are happy, your child is happy.